'He is still very much part of our lives' - grieving Portishead mum joins baby loss charity to help others
PUBLISHED: 09:00 29 June 2017
A Portishead woman who tragically lost her baby just a day after he was born is sharing her story to help others who have been through the same and to 'banish the taboo'.
Abbie Wilford, aged 41, lost her third child Danny very suddenly back in February 2012.
After having a home birth, Abbie and her husband John knew something was not right and Danny was rushed to Southmead Hospital, where it was revealed he had an undiagnosed heart condition which claimed his life hours later.
Support was crucial for Abbie, her husband and children Archie and Gwen, and again later when she had a fourth child, Freddie.
She told the Times how the organisation Bristol Sands really helped her through the dark times, and now she wants to give something back.
Bristol Sands is a charity which helps bereaved parents and all the volunteers have lost a baby.
She said: “I am now on the Bristol Sands committee. It all started from a mobile phone number I called and I poured my heart out.
“It was just nice to talk to someone who had been through what I had and I found it reassuring.
“It was nice to know what I was going through was normal and not feel like I was going mad.”
June marks the Stillbirth and Neo-natal Death Society’s baby loss awareness month and as part of this Abbie, and a number of other mums, took to the streets of Bristol to raise awareness.
They made their way round the city with a washing line of 15 baby vests, representing the 15 babies a day who are stillborn or die shortly after birth.
Abbie added: “They also provide pregnancy support, which is so important as you can be even more anxious when you get pregnant again.
“This really helped when I had Freddie and now I really just want to get the message out there.
“I think there is still a taboo and the reason behind doing this was to make sure people realise they can talk about it.
“Danny is still very much a part of all our lives and that is how it should be.”